i'm gonna spend some time and write this ... i taught myself this logic because i don't want other people to affect my actions ... whenever someone makes you angry, do you get pissed ? ... if you do, it means you are not controlling your own actions ... you have a choice to choose to get pissed or just forget it ... its up to other ppl to do what they want ... we can't stop them nor change them ... what we can do is control how we react ...
for example, a guy walk and drop into the drain ... can you control that ? ... no you can't ... we can't control his actions ... how the hell we know why he drop into the drain ... but we can choose to either laugh or help him ... this is our action, the thing that we can control ...
of course it doesn't only apply to getting angry ... it can apply everywhere ... if ppl scold you and you think its illogical then dun bother listening to them! ... their mouth = their problem ... my action = my problem ... at most if the person is really too much and you think it will affect his development then you can tell him his mistakes or he should not do that blah blah blah ... whether he listen or not is up to him ... we did our part as we can't force an idea or theory into someone ...
many things is way beyond our control ... but we can control ourselves ... don't let other ppl affect your actions ... that is what happened to me ... i shouldn't let the choices ppl make affect my actions ... i remembered this thing and that is why i'm back to normal now ...
oh and if you think ppl scolding you is bad cause you lose pride ... then how much is pride worth ? ... there was once my recruit told me "sergeant you shouldn't just let him anyhow scold you (in a fun way) " then i tell him ... "him scolding me doesn't affect me ... i lose nothing ... and the things he say won't change the way my life is now ..." then he said "but its pride" and i replied "how much is pride worth ? nothing ..." he said "but ......." he couldn't find the words to continue ...
come to think of it now ... i must add on some stuff ... the things people say won't affect my life rite ... if that guy say "go and die" ... would you die immediately ??? ... no ... "go eat shit" ... would you do that ??? ... no ... but if "can you do this to improve blah blah blah" of course you must take into consideration what he/she said and think through before doing it ... following blinding is just like scolding ppl ... not thinking ...
so i don't see any reason why must we be angry if someone scold you ...
so the next time someone say something bad about you, think through first ... if it is true, you will know it and change for the better ... but if its not true then ignore it ... there is no need to say anything else to that person ... so remember this ... others don't determine who you are, only you determine who you are ...
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